Why I Pressed "Pause" On My Career- 6 months later! www.theshortesttallman.com

6 Months Into Pausing My Career

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Why, hello shorties!

Well, I’m just over halfway through with my year off from work. I just wanted to check in with y’all, and fill you in on how I’m feeling about the whole thing.

(Can I just give a great big “Bless Your Heart!” to the Southerners for giving us “y’all”??? It is such a great word, y’all.)


Why I Pressed "Pause" On My Career- 6 months later! www.theshortesttallman.com


Interesting comments I have heard since I first told peeps I was doing this:
“Wow, if you can take the time, take it! Good for you!”
“How does your husband feel about it? My husband would never let me do that.”
“I took the time when my kids were little, too, and I loved every minute, you’ll never want to go back!”
“I wish I could but we can’t afford it.”
“I’d go nuts if I stayed home! If that’s something you want to do, I’m happy for you.”

It was so weird telling people. I knew I would puzzle a lot of people, being that my youngest was already 2, so I usually pre-empted any question by saying, “yeah, I’m late to the SAHM game! Tiny Tallman is 2, and I’m not pregnant, but we finally thought we could swing it. So we figured, why not!” I also stressed we a lot; sure, I really really really wanted to stay home, since my first Little Tallman was born, but by all means this was a joint decision. It makes me sad when I hear a mom friend tell me that they really want to, but Dad would never go for it. Of course, money dictates the decision, so if it’s that the dad is more budget conscious (like in our house, haha!), that’s one thing. But if it’s just because the dad can’t fathom “allowing” their wife to stay at home, and the wife really wants to, that is kind of sad. But, I guess disagreements happen in all marriages about all sorts of things, so it’s not my place to pass judgment.

Things I miss: alone time (not that there was a lot, but there was more than there is now!); the good moments of teaching; hanging out with great coworkers; money.

Things I don’t miss: the crappy moments of teaching; stress; having to pack/buy lunch. The stress is the biggest thing I left behind. And let me be clear- for me, when I left my career, I left a lot of stress behind. I found myself more available for my family, as well as other passions of mine besides classroom teaching. For some moms, lots of moms, lots of great moms that I know personally- their creative outlet at their career is a big part of their happiness and energizes them for their families. The struggle is real as a parent, but whatever gives you the feeling of fulfillment is the way to go! For me, between wanting to stay at home and having parts of my job that I did not love (at all!), added up to me feeling burnt out. Luckily, my husband was both able and willing to support my dream of staying at home. He’s a good dude 🙂 I think we are all a little happier, and a lot more at ease.

What does the future hold for me? Not sure just yet. And I do need to decide on next year soon. But, I will say, I am in a big hurry to keep on waiting 🙂

(That was a cute closer, right???? ???)

What about you? What works better for you- SAHM, WOHM, WAHM, or a Part-Time combo?? I think that Part-Time combo is a great balance, but hard to find in many career paths.

Why I Pressed "Pause" On My Career- 6 months later! www.theshortesttallman.com